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Going Nerding

Updated: Nov 4, 2022

In Susan Cain’s book Quiet, she writes about “Going Nerding” which sounded fantastic to me. It’s when groups of students get together and hang out in a library or someplace like that and have interesting conversations about various topics. I am sooooo going to start using that phrase from now on! It’s my favorite thing to do! Who wants to Go Nerding with me?

That book led me to the research of Dr. Elaine Aron. She wrote a book called The Highly Sensitive Person. I find it comforting to know I am not a freak of nature. I simply have a sensitive nervous system. That just means I pick up on subtleties in the environment more than other people. We HSPs, as she calls us, evolved to be advisors to the more assertive and aggressive personality types. We take our time and observe before jumping in and taking action. Because we are more sensitive to the environment, we are also prone to becoming over sensitized.

Normal people do not understand and try to tell us we are overreacting. It can be very confusing to be a person growing up in a world that doesn’t understand and wants to toughen up the sensitive ones to be more like them. This doesn’t help. It actually causes more harm than good.

My goal is to help other HSPs understand that having a sensitive nervous system is a personality trait – not a disorder! You have a gift to share with the world. Do not undervalue the contribution you can make!

Are you finding it difficult to explain to people how overstimulating life can be? Are you getting strange looks from people? Are they causing you to feel weird? Well, welcome to the club!!!

Dr. Aron wrote about this personality trait over twenty years ago and I just recently learned about it. She has estimated about one third of the population to be HSPs. I also learned that an empath can be an HSP, but an HSP isn’t always an empath. There are various degrees of sensitivity across the spectrum.

Please share what you’ve observed in your world and let me know if you want to Go Nerding sometime… just understand that I may need to take a nap afterwards, depending on how stimulating it gets.

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